What is your love language?

Okay I'm totally copying this from the book, "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.  The book is rife with Christian references, but that doesn't make the central points any less.  So here's what I want you to do. 

1) Find your gender.
2) For the appropriate gender, choose the member of each paired statement that means more to you. 
3) Tally up your numbers for A, B, C, D, and E.
4) Find out what your primary emphasis:  highest score is primary love language.  Pay attention to the top two.

Note: I am using the term "SO" for your significant other. I just don't want to type it over and over.

For Men:

1.  My SO's love notes make me feel good. - A
     I love my SO's hugs. - E

2.  I like to be along with my SO. - B
     I feel loved when my SO helps me do yard work. - D

3.  Receiving special gifts from my SO makes me happy. - C
     I enjoy long trips with my SO. - B

4.  I feel loved when my SO does my laundry. - D
     I like it when my SO touches me. - E

5.  I feel loved when my SO puts their arm around me. - E
     I know my SO loves me because they surprise me with gifts. - C

6.  I like going most anywhere with my SO. - B
     I like to hold my SO's hand. - E

7.  I value the gifts my SO gives to me. - C
     I love to hear my SO say that they love me. - A

8.  I like for my SO to sit close to me. - E
     My SO tells me I look good, and I like that. - A

9.  Spending time with my SO makes me happy. - B
     Even the smallest gift from my SO is important to me. - C

10. I feel loved when my SO tells me that they are proud of me. - A
     When my SO cooks a meal for me, I know that they love me. - D

11.  No matter what we do, I love doing things with my SO. - B
       Supportive comments from my SO make me feel good. - A

12. Little things my SO does for me mean more than the things my SO says. - D
     I love to hug my SO. - E

13. My SO's praise means a lot to me.  - A
      It means a lot to me that my SO gives me gifts that I really like. - C

14. Just being around my SO makes me feel good. - B
     I love it when my SO rubs my back. - E

15. My SO's reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging. - A
     It means a lot to me when my SO helps with something I know they hate. - D

16. I never get tired of my SO's kisses. - E
     I love that my SO shows real interest in the things that I like to do. - B

17. I can count on my SO to help me with projects . - D
     I still get excited when opening a gift from my SO. - C

18. I love for my SO to compliment my appearance. - A
     I love that my SO listens to my ideas and doesn't rush to judge or criticize. - B

19. I can't help but touch my SO when they're close by. - E
     My SO sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that. - D

20. My SO deserves an award for all the things they do to help me. - D
     I'm sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my SO's gifts to me are. - C

21. I love having my SO's undivided attention. - B
     Keeping the house clean is an important act of service. - D

22. I look forward to seeing what my SO gives me for my birthday. - C
     I never get tired of hearing my SO tell me that I am important to them. - A

23. My SO lets me know they love me by giving me gifts. - C
     My SO shows their love by helping me catch up on projects around the house. - D

24. My SO doesn't interrupt me when I'm talking, and I like that. - B
     I never get tired of receiving gifts from my SO. - C

25. My SO can tell when I'm tired, and they're good about asking how they can help. - D
     It doesn't matter where we go, I just like going places with my SO. - B

26. I love having sex with my SO. - E
     I love surprise gifts from my SO. - C

27. My SO's encouraging words give me confidence. - A
     I love to watch movies with my SO. - B

28.  I couldn't ask for any better gifts than the ones my SO gives me. - C
     I just can't keep my hands off my SO. - E

29. It means a lot to me when my SO helps me despite having other things to do. - D
     It makes me feel really good when my SO tells me that they appreciate me. - A

30. I love hugging and kissing my SO after we've been apart for a while. - E
     I love hearing my SO tell me that they believe in me. - A


For Women:

1. My SO's love notes make me feel good. - A
    I love my SO's hugs. - E

2. I like to be along with my SO. - B
    I feel loved when my SO washes my car. - D

3. Receiving special gifts from my SO makes me happy. - C
    I enjoy long trips with my SO. - B

4. I feel loved when my SO helps with the laundry. - D
    I like it when my SO touches me. - E

5. I feel loved when my SO puts their arm around me. - E
    I know my SO loves me because they surprise me with gifts. - C

6. I like going most anywhere with my SO. - B
    I like to hold my SO's hand. - E

7. I value the gifts my SO gives to me. - C
    I love to hear my SO say that they love me. - A

8. I like for my SO to sit close to me. - E
    My SO tells me I look good, and I like that. - A

9. Spending time with my SO makes me happy. - B
    Even the smallest gift from my SO is important to me. - C

10. I feel loved when my SO tells me that they are proud of me. - A
      When my SO helps clean up after a meal, I know that they love me. - D

11. No matter what we do, I love doing things with my SO. - B
      Supportive comments from my SO make me feel good. - A

12. Little things my SO does for me mean more than the things my SO says. - D
      I love to hug my SO. - E

13. My SO's praise means a lot to me. - A
      It means a lot to me that my SO gives me gifts that I really like. - C

14. Just being around my SO makes me feel good. - B
      I love it when my SO gives me a massage. - E

15. My SO's reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging. - A
      It means a lot to me when my SO helps with something I know they hate. - D

16. I never get tired of my SO's kisses. - E
      I love that my SO shows real interest in the things that I like to do. - B

17. I can count on my SO to help me with projects . - D
      I still get excited when opening a gift from my SO. - C

18. I love for my SO to compliment my appearance. - A
      I love that my SO listens to me and respects my ideas. - B

19. I can't help but touch my SO when they're close by. - E
      My SO sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that. - D

20. My SO deserves an award for all the things they do to help me. - D
      I'm sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my SO's gifts to me are. - C

21. I love having my SO's undivided attention. - B
      I love that my SO helps clean the house. - D

22. I look forward to seeing what my SO gives me for my birthday. - C
      I never get tired of hearing my SO tell me that I am important to them. - A

23. My SO lets me know they love me by giving me gifts. - C
      My SO shows their love by helping me without my having to ask. - D

24. My SO doesn't interrupt me when I'm talking, and I like that. - B
      I never get tired of receiving gifts from my SO. - C

25. My SO is good about asking how they can help when I'm tired. - D
      It doesn't matter where we go, I just like going places with my SO. - B

26. I love cuddling with my SO. - E
      I love surprise gifts from my SO. - C

27. My SO's encouraging words give me confidence. - A
      I love to watch movies with my SO. - B

28. I couldn't ask for any better gifts than the ones my SO gives me. - C
      I love it that my SO can't keep their hands off of me. - E

29. It means a lot to me when my SO helps me despite being busy. - D
      It makes me feel really good when my SO tells me that they appreciate me. - A

30. I love hugging and kissing my SO after we've been apart for a while. - E
      I love hearing my SO tell me that they missed me. - A



A = Words of Affirmation
B = Quality Time
C = Receiving Gifts
D = Acts of Service
E - Physical Touch

Now what does this mean?

Knowing your partner's (and your own) love language will help to develop or regain a greater sese of communication, understanding and bring back (or maintain!) the romance in the long run. 

If you're wondering...

My scores were:

Words of Affirmation - 6
Quality Time - 9
Receiving Gifts - 0
Acts of Service - 3
Physical Touch - 12

So in essence, I'd much rather spend quality time with my SO and have his undivided attention and still be in close enough range that we can touch all the time and reassure one another and reaffirm our love. 

What's yours?